DEAR MASSI, I have fallen in love with someone after meeting him on the internet.

We have been talking via e-mails for two months and spoken over the phone many times.

The problem is he wants to meet me and I am afraid he wont like what he sees. He wanted a picture so I sent my sisters picture to him.

She is better looking than I am and I thought he would stop talking to me if I sent him a picture of myself.

My friends say I should have sent him my own picture.

I am not one of those people who goes out often and am shy when I am around people.

Although he hasnt said it I think he senses I have been making excuses. He even asked me if I was married and I am getting really worried now.

I have seen his picture and he could have any girl in the world if he wanted to. This makes me more worried he wont like me.

I cant sleep and I am always stressed. He is from London and he said he is coming to my town at the Christmas holidays. I have even thought of sending my sister to see him instead.

I dont think I can keep on telling lies. What shall I do? KJ

MASSI SAYS,

It seems you have very low-esteem having rarely been in this situation before. But you should not let that get you down.

The only way to get past this barrrier is to meet up with him. Why ruin something like this because you think he wont like the way you look? He has fallen in love with you as a person and it may make no difference to him what you look like.

How do you know the picture he sent you was not of someone else? He is probably as nervous meeting you as you are of him.

As for getting your sister to stand in for you I think this is a bad idea because the truth is bound to be revealed sooner or later. And this might ruin your relationship for good.

I am sure he will understand what you have been going through and forgive you for sending the wrong picture.