DEAR MASSI, In a matter of weeks my whole life has turned upside down.

I have been married for six years. It was a love marriage and my parents were so supportive.

We moved into a new neighbourhood and everything went well. We both worked and we had more than most couples could ever wish for. When I got pregnant with my first child I became depressed but my husband was always there to help me. After my second child things got worse and I couldnt go back to work.

It was then I met a man who lived some streets away from us. We met at the shops and he was from abroad and his English wasnt very good but I was very attracted to him.

We ended up having an affair. This secret I kept from my husband.

I should have counted myself lucky but some months later I met a friends uncle. He was in his forties. I am now in my thirties. Again I did something stupid but my friend found out. She stopped talking to me.

For the past month my husband wants to know why my best friend isnt coming around anymore. I obviously cant tell him.

Whats worse she is threatening to tell my husband everything.

FH

Manchester

MASSI SAYS,

You began by saying in a matter of weeks your life has turned upside down. I would say it is longer than that.

And you only have yourself to blame. Things like these do not happen overnight.

You have lost your best friend and caused problems within a family. You have been selfish and inconsiderate.

Everything looks like it is going to fall apart. If you want to keep your husband from further misery then you must tell him what you have done. You might think this is the last thing to do but he may find out sooner or later.

How do you think he is going to feel if your best friend decides to carry out her threat?

What he decides to do after that is up to to him.

When a person begins a lie and then tries to cover that lie up with another then things are bound to go pear shaped.